The Unavailabe Man Cycle
I sat in one of my favorite bars sipping one of my favorite cocktails. Across from me was a man with whom I had been building up a friendship over the past few weeks. I believe that even while in a relationship, you may be attracted to someone, but should be respectful not to cross boundaries. I sat there listening to this married man tell me how attracted he was to me, how he thinks of me daily, and all the reasons why he likes me. Here we go, again ! I try to be friends with men, and it turns out to be something more unintentionally. This scene is too familiar, old, and not desirable. I already know the outcome because I have lived various forms of it. So, when I find myself in situations where I may like someone unavailable, I now pick apart what it is about them that I like and how I would like to see those qualities in my future partner. Not to frame it as I want this unavailable man. I genuinely believe that if you do not learn from them the first time, you will have the sa...